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Failure To Thrive is a blockage in normal physical development which might be the precursor to slow-downs in the normal developmental process and normal maturation.

Failure To Thrive is a diagnosis given to children who are consistently underweight or who do not gain weight for unclear reasons. Many causes involve social and environmental factors that work together to keep the infant from having access to the nutrition the baby needs. There are times when medical conditions prevent a child from growing normally. Another significant cause is the child’s own intolerances and sensitivities.

When There Are Social And Environmental Roots

Many socio-environmental factors can be responsible for Failure To Thrive. Parental neglect or abuse, parental emotional health disorders, and disordered family conditions in which routine, nutritious meals are not provided, may all depress a child’s appetite and intake of food. The amount of money a family has available for food and the nutritional value of the food they buy also affects development. Inadequate intake of food may be a sign of inadequate parenting and environmental stimulation.

If The Causes Are Medical Disorders

Sometimes Failure To Thrive Syndrome is caused by a medical difficulty in the baby. The disorder can be as simple as difficulty drinking, chewing, or swallowing (as with a cleft lip or cleft palate). Medical issues, such as gastroesophageal reflux, esophagus narrowing, or poor intestinal absorption, may also affect a child’s ability to obtain nutrition from food. Infection, tumor, metabolic or hormonal disorders (such as cystic fibrosis or diabetes), heart disease, kidney disease, genetic disorders, and human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) infection are other medical reasons for Failure To Thrive.

When The Problems Are Based In Intolerances

And, sometimes child and infant Failure To Thrive is caused by the baby’s defenses responding to normal environmental factors as if those normal things were toxic. This is a intolerance of some environmental factors which the child’s defenses thinks is toxic.

This response to this “toxic attack” could be shutting down the baby’s normal developmental process as a temporary protective measure until the “attack” goes away. But, because these environmental factors are not toxic to others, the family and the medical professionals do not know to eliminate these “toxic” factors from the child’s environment. In this case this temporary protective defensive reaction continues without stopping. This means that the infant’s own defenses interrupts the infant’s normal developmental process on an ongoing basis, because of the child’s intolerances.

Diagnosis For The Roots In Medical Problems And Social And Environmental Roots

Doctors diagnose Failure To Thrive when the baby’s weight or rate of growth is much lower than what it should be when compared with past measurements or standard age-height-weight charts. If the physical development is adequate, the infant may be small but still developing normally.

To determine why a child may be failing to thrive normally, medical practitioners ask parents specific questions about feeding, bowel habits, social, emotional, and financial stability of the family, which might affect the child’s access to nutrition, and illnesses that the infant has had or that run in the family. The doctor examines the baby, looking for signs of conditions which might explain the child’s delay in development. The medical practitioner makes decisions about blood and urine tests and x-rays based on this initial evaluation. More extensive examinations are performed only if the doctor believes there is an underlying medical condition.

Determining The Child’s Intolerances and Sensitivities

There are some published diets (GFCF Diet and Feingold Diet) which attempt to address these sensitivity issues. These diets work well for those children who are sensitive to the things which are specifically restricted by these programs. But, for the majority of children whose intolerances are affecting their growth and development, these diets are incomplete and not specifically tailored for them.

It is best to have a specialist, who knows how to perform this specific test for intolerance, work with your child to determine your child’s precise list of sensitivities. Those who specialize in this testing can include some chiropractors, nutritionists, and other wellness practitioners trained for this type of evaluation.

Treatment and Prognosis For The Roots In Medical Difficulties And Socio-Environmental Roots

The medical disorders and socio-environmental roots approach assumes there is something wrong with the infant’s body or the child’s social environment. These treatments are focused on a fault in the baby’s nutritional processing or access.

Treatment depends on the root of the problem. If a medical problem is found, specific treatment is given. Otherwise, treatment depends on how far below normal the infant’s weight is. Mild to moderate Failure To Thrive is treated with nutritious high-calorie feedings taken on a regular schedule. Parents could be counseled about family interactions that are damaging to the child and about financial and social resources available to them. Severe Failure To Thrive is treated in the hospital where nutritionists, social workers, psychiatrists, feeding specialists, and other specialists work together to determine the most likely causes of the child’s Failure To Thrive and the best approach to feeding.

Treatment For The Issues In Intolerances and Sensitivities

The interventions for the intolerances and sensitivities approach is to determine which things in the environment the baby is responding to and eliminates those from the child’s environment. When the infant is no longer reacting to those, the normal developmental process re-engages and development and growth can proceed normally. With this approach, food is absorbed appropriately and growth gets back on track. There are specialists in Failure To Thrive syndrome who can determine your child’s intolerances and sensitivities and coach you in getting your child back on track.

Summary

The socio-environmental approach assumes that something is wrong in the baby’s social environment in such a way that nourishment is not available or is not accepted by the baby.

The medical difficulties approach for Failure To Thrive infants and children assumes that nourishment is not being processed and absorbed by the child because of some medical difficulty.

The sensitivities approach for Failure To Thrive children assumes that the baby is having responses to environmental factors and these defensive responses are shutting down the normal growth and developmental process.

 

Life is quite stressful when you have to deal with a picky eater at home. Daily you stand in your kitchen wondering what to prepare and if they will eat it. The power battles during meal times are driving you one step close to the grave too. Having little children that are picky eaters is not unusual. Many parents are in the same boat. I’ve been told that the fussiness over food will disappear when the children get older. But waiting it out isn’t really going to help you now. So, here are some tips to overcome their pickiness:

1. Let them plan meals and go grocery shopping with you. If you give them the chance to write the dinner menu, you increase the likelihood that they will eat it.

2. Be careful of the snacks they eat before meals. You can’t blame them if they say no to meals when they just had a snack to filled them up. Apart from the snacks, limit the drinks too. Don’t underestimate the filling power of juice and milk.

3. Avoid giving them too much at the first serving. Give smaller portions and if they can eat more, let them have seconds. Doing so, you create opportunities for them to finish their meal and they feel good when they do so.

4. Employ their little hands to prepare the food. The fact that they helped to cook it, motivates them to want to eat it. For instance, while preparing dinner, I persuaded my daughter who is 7 years old to help me chop up the broccoli and cauliflower. What do you reckon happened next? She eagerly put them on her plate and finished it and we’re talking about a girl who straight out refused them before.

5. Present to them 2 types of foods to choose. Make them feel the decision is in their hands. You should say “do you want pasta or sandwich”, “fruit salad or vegetable salad” etc….

6. Learn to make snacks that are nutritional. Fruits and vegetables are ideal. Prepare them as finger foods like carrot sticks and dip.

7. Bring to their attention what foods other children are eating, more so what their friends are eating. Do you notice that your children are always more interested in eating other people’s food then yours? Their friends could be eating something they’ve never had before but they are willing to try. Maybe you should consider inviting your children’s friends over more often. If you do this, make a pact with the parents first that only healthy food will be served.

8. Sometimes it’s not the taste that is the problem but rather the texture of the food. If this is the case, prepare the food in a different way; like making bananas into a smoothie, or sneak in carrots into your muffins.

9. Labeling them as a picker eater can be detrimental. Hearing you make a big deal of it all the time may encourage them to play out the role.

10. Decide that you will not cook them a separate meal. Yes, you suggest a choice of foods to them but it’s not something different from the family menu. If you give in to their demands, you’ll never get them to expand their list of like-able foods.

Dealing with picky eaters requires much patience. It may prove to be a difficult challenge but you must strive to keep meal times a happy time. Talk to the children about meal time rules and enforce them consistently. One thing that will also help is to search out easy recipes for picky eaters. It definitely helps to get a little creative in preparing meals.

Teenagers’ lives are often a closed book to parents and however hard we may try we simply cannot get them to open the book and read what is inside it. But how are we going to keep our children safe and help them to develop into self-sufficient and confident adults if we are not sure what they are doing, where they are going, who they are spending time with, what they think and how they feel?

Well, here are 4 tips that might help to open that book just enough to get a glimpse inside.

Tip 1 – Start when your children are young. It is much easier to keep a relationship rolling along than it is to start it up initially and this is particularly true with our children. If we start literally from the day they are born and build a close and strong relationship then life will be relatively easy when they get to those difficult teenage years. However, if we keep our distance, or simply do not have the time to get close to them when they are young, then it is going to become increasingly hard to do so as they get older.

Tip 2 – Seek out common ground. We all have things which we enjoy doing by ourselves but it is important that partners also share interests and have some things, such as fishing, hiking or gardening which they enjoy doing together. This is not only true of partners however and should also extend to parents and children. Accordingly, seek out something, and preferably a number of things, which you and your kids can enjoy doing together as a family and that provides you with a common interest to talk about.

Tip 3 – Listen to what your children say and maintain an open mind. During their teenage years children often form opinions very quickly and often without an adequate understanding of the issues at hand. This means that they will sometimes come out with comments which you find concerning or which you do not like or agree with. Nevertheless, take the time to listen to what they are saying and try not to judge them too quickly or harshly. There is nothing wrong with telling them that do not agree with them or do not approve of something provided you go on to explain why and do not turn what you are saying so that becomes an attack on them.

Tip 4 – Make time for your children. One of the main concerns for most teenagers is that they are not able to spend enough time with their parents and this is frequently seen as a matter of their parents not caring enough about how they are feeling or what they are doing. One major result of this is that teenagers also frequently feel unable to talk to their parents when they have a problem and want some help.

Many of us lead very busy lives but if we were talking about a client instead of our own kid you can bet your life that we would make the time necessary for that client. Well, our kids are far more important than any client at work and so it should not really be too hard to make some time every day, or at the very least every week, to devote ourselves solely to our children for a while.

There are many different ways of ensuring that we spend sufficient time with our kids and often it is just a matter of organizing our time better. One simple way to meet our aims is to ensure that the entire family sits down to dinner each evening and that this is a time to both eat and talk. Another way to spend time with your teenagers is to drive them to school every morning rather than letting them ride the bus. Yet another suggestion is to play sport together one or two times a week. There are any number of ways to make time for your kids if you just your mind to it.

Parenting is not easy and this is especially true when it comes to troubled teenagers but always remember that hundreds of thousands of parents are already been down this road and are only too willing to let you have some parenting advice if you just ask for it.